Confrontation

Yesterday I had two men in my office that had some heated words through text and email. (always a bad idea) Emotions were high, feelings had been hurt and there is no doubt that things should have and could have been handled better on both sides.

  One of the hardest things you will ever do is confront someone.

Some people will never listen, they are gossips. Others are garbage cans (they listen and take in gossip.)

The Proverb says, “do not give a fool the time of day.” If you are alive, then you know that confrontation is going to happen.”

Confrontation isn’t easy or enjoyable. If you like confrontation, then you are a sick person!

Matthew, chapter 18 gives us some very clear guidelines in dealing with interpersonal relationships.

There will be people who will reject your confrontation. Nothing is ever “their fault.” They will never take responsibility for anything that happens, they will always blame someone else or throw someone else under the bus. There are some people that just will not respond the right way, even after you have handled things according to Matthew 18.

Thank God there are those people when confronted, who receive the confrontation. They have a teachable spirit. They desire that their horizontal and vertical relationships be right. They repent and you have won over your brother/sister.

They understand Proverb 27:2 – “wounds from a friend can be trusted.”

How do you respond when confronted over something? How do you deal with people who need to be confronted? Do you take the high road because it is the right thing to do or because you lack courage?

Do you follow Matthew 18 or do you just go with whatever feels comfortable?

I’m glad to say that both men came in my office with a humble spirit and heart for reconciliation.They both left with that burden lifted.

Jesus set up the guidelines and we must be willing to confront.

Milk or Meat?

Last week  I watched my 3 and a half year old grandson, Finn eat half a steak and ask for more. It seemed like just yesterday I was feeding him a bottle. He has gone from milk to meat.

The Bible says in Luke, chapter 2, verse 52 "And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man."

The Greek word for "increased in" is PROEKOPTERT…it means to ‘advance’ or to ‘keep cutting one’s way forward as through a forest or a jungle.’

Jesus is a perfect example  and model of personal growth. He grew in:

Wisdom: Wisdom is skill in living, not just knowing what to do, but actually doing it. Wisdom entails living the way God intends for you to live.

Favor with God: You must maintain a healthy relationship with Christ through Bible study, prayer and deep intimacy.

Stature: When you gain favor with God, and you walk in wisdom, your stature will increase in the eyes of others.

Make sure that you have a personal growth plan and design a specific journey of growing in wisdom, favor and stature. Nothing is more vital or needed in your life.

My challenge to you is to "grow up." I am speaking in spiritual terms. I have watched my five grand babies grow from bottles to baby food to "table food"  – eating steak! It is time that we as believers move from milk to meat.

Dive in…take the steps you need to grow. Read your Bible, STUDY your Bible, pray and have an intimate relationship with Jesus. Be active in church, get involved and serve.

Let God do something amazing in your life. Grow up! Get off that milk. Steak really is so much better!

Man in the Mirror

The late great theologian Michael Jackson said, “Take a look at yourself and make a change- start with the man in the mirror.”

All of us need to heed that advice today and really take a long look at where we are!

What about priorities…are you kingdom minded or self minded?

If you're having a hard time answering that question, just look at your calendar and your bank statement. Where you spend your time and money reveals not only your priorities, but also your heart.

How intimate are you with Jesus?

Do you have a vibrant relationship with him?

What about your giving? Do you tithe? What percentage do you currently give? Your giving reflects your love!

Do you love Jesus?

Looking in the mirror can be awfully upsetting. (I'm not talking about the outside but the inside.)

Aren't you tired of status quo, mundane living?

Are you ready to do something with the person in the mirror?

One Life!

I had a birthday recently. It seems as you get older, all birthdays come with a little perspective.

I really have been thinking that the time is now to be aggressive and to take risks.I  don’t want to look back and think, “I should have gone after that!”

James 4:14 says, “…you do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away.”

Have you ever watched steam rise from a boiling pot? It is there and then it is instantly gone. That is the comparison that James is giving with our physical lives and vapor/mist. Yet, somehow, we feel that we are guaranteed a nice long life…84 years or so and we miss the emphasis of the comparison.

If you knew that your life was going to end tomorrow, wouldn’t you do things differently today? Of course you would!

You would spend the day with your family, savoring every second.

You would make sure that your affairs are in order.

And I believe that you would get your spiritual house in order.

Let’s not wait lets do it now! We only have one life and it’s going to be gone before we know it.

Let’s get bold and step out and live life to the fullest! We only have one life!

Milk or Meat

A couple of days ago, I watched my 3 and a half year old grandson, Finn eat half a steak and ask for more.

It seemed like just yesterday I was feeding him a bottle. He has gone from milk to meat.

The Bible says in Luke, chapter 2, verse 52 "And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man."

The Greek word for "increased in" is PROEKOPTERT…it means to ‘advance’ or to ‘keep cutting one’s way forward as through a forest or a jungle.’

Jesus is a perfect example  and model of personal growth. He grew in:

Wisdom: Wisdom is skill in living, not just knowing what to do, but actually doing it. Wisdom entails living the way God intends for you to live.

Favor with God: You must maintain a healthy relationship with Christ through Bible study, prayer and deep intimacy.

Stature: When you gain favor with God, and you walk in wisdom, your stature will increase in the eyes of others.

Make sure that you have a personal growth plan and design a specific journey of growing in wisdom, favor and stature. Nothing is more vital or needed in your life.

My challenge to you is to "grow up." I am speaking in spiritual terms. I have watched my five grand babies grow from bottles to baby food to "table food"  – eating steak! It is time that we as believers move from milk to meat.

Dive in…take the steps you need to grow. Read your Bible, STUDY your Bible, pray and have an intimate relationship with Jesus. Be active in church, get involved and serve.

Let God do something amazing in your life. Grow up! Get off that milk. Steak really is so much better.

Change the World

This is an exciting time around New Season. It is the week leading up to our annual Kingdom Come offering this Sunday. I am praying and believing that God is going to do something incredible as our people join together in unity, giving generously to make things happen for Jesus! Our goal is $60,000 so that we can:

· Start new campuses in Paulding County and in other states

· Hire more staff

· Install flooring and make Xavier and Renee Villa’s home handicap accessible.. (Xavier is one of our faithful members who was seriously injured in an accident a few months ago. We desperately want to help this family,

· Upgrade our equipment (specifically in our Children’s Dept.)

· Be involved in ministries including building a Training Center in Uganda, putting computers in schools in El Salvador and partnering with more church plants in the U.S.

I have stressed over and over that in order to raise the money that we need, it is going to take sacrifice and obedience from each one of us. We cannot “tip” God, it will take sacrificial gifts from each of us to raise this money. Please pray and be faithful to give what God leads you to give…be generous!

Make plans to attend our special day of prayer at New Season today from 6:00 pm until midnight. Just choose an hour to come and pray at New Season during these times. We will be praying for our Kingdom Come offering and any other needs that we know of. Don’t miss this special prayer time as we ask God for His touch on Kingdom Come!

Kingdom Come is a big deal…it is vital in allowing us to touch the world for the Kingdom of God. Be actively involved…pray and give! Help us change the world!

Not Even Your Past

Have you ever had the thought that God is finished using you? Or perhaps you messed up so bad that you feel God will “put you on the shelf” for the rest of your life.

Maybe for days, weeks, months…maybe even years, you have believed that it’s over, God can’t use you.

I have good news. The only people God ever used in the Bible were people who had really “messed up.”

Abraham lied; Moses killed a man; David committed adultery; Peter had a big mouth and even denied knowing Jesus and Paul was a murderer.

Listen, your past doesn’t disqualify you from an amazing future in Christ. God is not finished with you…just the opposite, He is just beginning! His plan and purpose for your life are just beginning to unfold.

Stop believing the lie that you have convinced yourself to be true. God has a marvelous plan for your life and He is going to use you! It is going to blow your mind.

Get ready, your God is unleashing His favor on you. Your future is blessed and nothing can stop God…not even your past!

Move Up and Move On!

One of the biggest challenges we all face is moving past the past.We seem to hold on to our past mistakes and beat ourselves up over and over again. 

I love what Paul said in Philippians, chapter 3, verses 13 and 14…"Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus."

The first thing that we are encouraged to do is to forget the past and move on. Some people just can’t seem to get "past the past." For some, it’s a…

Failed marriage

Failed business venture

Failure at job

Failure at school

Failure isn’t final. Failure isn’t fatal. Move on to what God has for you. Paul said to "reach forth," to be focused and press toward.

We must not only let go of the past, but pursue the future with a passion and resolve.

I love what Isaiah says “Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history. Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new. It’s bursting out! Don’t you see it? There it is! I’m making a road through the desert, rivers in the badlands." Isaiah 43:18-19 – The Message

Let’s start fresh today.Move up and move on.

Golden Nuggets

I have been reading the Proverbs now for 20 years. There are 31 chapters in Proverbs and usually 31 days in a month. My practice for many years, continuing to this day is to read the Proverb twice. I read it out loud, look over it again, pick out three major truths and then meditate on those truths.

Proverbs are one line sermons or nuggets of truth that are full of practical wisdom for daily living.

The word “proverb” is actually made up of two Latin words, ‘pro’ – instead of and ‘verba’ – words. So a proverb is a sentence that “instead of many words”, it summarizes or captures a truth that can be easily applied to our lives.

The key word found in Proverbs is wisdom. Proverbs is a guidebook to discovering practical wisdom or skillful living…living wisely and making good choices.

Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived (outside of Jesus) tells us to seek wisdom above everything else.

Wisdom Protects

Wisdom Perfects

Wisdom Directs

Proverbs deals with many different subjects but the overwhelming subject matter is about six key areas:

Your money

Your morals

Your mouth

Your motives

Your marriage and…

Your mind set

We all need help in these areas and we all need Godly wisdom in dealing with real life issues. Proverbs provides you with that.

I encourage you to join me and start reading a Proverb a day.

Just Thankful

I love Thanksgiving. I love what it stands for…thankfulness.

I love being with family, eating great food and watching football. We have a tradition in our family of playing a friendly football game. (If you have ever played or watched our family play any type of sport together, you know that it is usually not “friendly” at all!)

I am ashamed to say that many times, I get so busy with life that I take my blessings for granted. I really try to keep a grateful attitude but I know that sometimes I fail. I know that I am a blessed man. I have a million things to be thankful for.

Vickie and I often talk about how our favorite times now are when everyone is together…all of our children, their spouses and our 5 incredibly wonderful grandchildren. Nothing beats those moments when we are all in the same place with everyone talking at once, laughing, yelling at a sporting event on television, babies playing, screaming, giggling and maybe even crying! Those are the best times and I am so thankful for them.

I am thankful for an amazing wife who loves me unconditionally and stands by me, no matter what.

For my 6 amazing “kids” who have grown into incredible adults who love God and love their family. 3 of them are married to women and a man who are amazing people who love our family and add so much to it.

And our amazing grandbabies: Finn, Judah, Isla, Lakely and Huntingtyn. Wow, I won’t even begin or I will write all day. What a joy these babies are to me!

I’m thankful for other family members, great friends, the best church in the world and the opportunities that God is bringing to us. I’m just thankful!

Tomorrow, we will all stop and reflect and thank God for all the amazing things in our lives like family and friends, health and a great church.

May we all have an attitude of gratitude every day. Happy Thanksgiving from the Flockharts

Family - summer 2014

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