The Secret Sauce

We have been in a series at New Season on the family called “Family Secrets.” This Sunday, I am preaching a message on the “Secret Sauce”.

Today, I am going to give you some things you can do to enhance your marriage but these things aren’t the secret sauce. These are all extremely necessary ingredients but you will have to come Sunday or listen on line to get the secret sauce!


1. Feed Your Man’s Ego

Men have extremely fragile egos that make them feel they must always be right and they must always be in control. Ladies, make it a point to tell him you respect him and admire him. Seek his advice! Feed his ego.

2. Enjoy recreational activities together.

Ecclesiastes 9:9 says, “Enjoy life with your wife.” Remember men are doers – they pursue action, They are task oriented. Find something that you both enjoy and do it together. If you luck out like me, your wife will like sports!

3. Look your best

Men are stimulated by what they see. Your man is visual so get all dolled up for him!

4. Enjoy sex often

You read that right! Read Proverbs 5:19 and I Corinthians 7: 3-6. Enough said!


1. Date your wife weekly

Dating must be a priority. It can be a lunch date, an evening out, a movie, dinner, etc…    The point is, just make sure you take your wife out, just the two of you once a week. Dating will be a major factor in deepening your relationship.

2. Talk to your wife

Men need to learn to be better conversationalists. Speak up – ask her how her day was, really be interested in it. Make sure you listen well and make eye contact. Communication is vital in any marriage.

3. Provide for her physically and emotionally

The number one need for a woman is love and security. She wants financial security. I know there are tough times and I know that many men are depressed over their job situations. Do whatever it takes to provide!                                                                                            Also know that she needs emotional support. Emotional support is the cement that holds everything together.

4. Plan trips away

I know that money is tight. I know we are all busy but you must not miss this one. A change of scenery and the thought and time it takes to plan will do wonders for your marriage. (There are other benefits as well!)

5. Show her, don’t just tell her

Most women’s love language is you doing something. Take some action, words mean very little when they’re not backed up with action. Whatever it is that she needs you to do -taking out the garbage, “honey do” list…whatever that is, do it! Show her the love and she will show you the love.

All these are important but the secret sauce is….???

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