Yesterday I had two men in my office that had some heated words through text and email. (always a bad idea) Emotions were high, feelings had been hurt and there is no doubt that things should have and could have been handled better on both sides.
One of the hardest things you will ever do is confront someone.
Some people will never listen, they are gossips. Others are garbage cans (they listen and take in gossip.)
The Proverb says, “do not give a fool the time of day.” If you are alive, then you know that confrontation is going to happen.”
Confrontation isn’t easy or enjoyable. If you like confrontation, then you are a sick person!
Matthew, chapter 18 gives us some very clear guidelines in dealing with interpersonal relationships.
There will be people who will reject your confrontation. Nothing is ever “their fault.” They will never take responsibility for anything that happens, they will always blame someone else or throw someone else under the bus. There are some people that just will not respond the right way, even after you have handled things according to Matthew 18.
Thank God there are those people when confronted, who receive the confrontation. They have a teachable spirit. They desire that their horizontal and vertical relationships be right. They repent and you have won over your brother/sister.
They understand Proverb 27:2 – “wounds from a friend can be trusted.”
How do you respond when confronted over something? How do you deal with people who need to be confronted? Do you take the high road because it is the right thing to do or because you lack courage?
Do you follow Matthew 18 or do you just go with whatever feels comfortable?
I’m glad to say that both men came in my office with a humble spirit and heart for reconciliation.They both left with that burden lifted.
Jesus set up the guidelines and we must be willing to confront.