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In our culture, everyone is searching for “Mr. / Mrs. Right.” Most ladies are daydreaming about her knight in shining armor and looking for her combination of Gerard Butler, Brad Pitt, and Will Smith. Most men are on the hunt for that sexy, gorgeous, funny girl with a killer smile.
Women want romance, sensitivity, and humor. Men dream of a woman with a beautiful body that he will marry and have sex with three times a day with… and yes, he is still dreaming!
Mr. and Mrs. Right get married and have a few children. They work on building their careers and paying the mortgage, car payments, cell phones, etc. You get the picture — life happens!
The problem is we dated perfect people. We had picture perfect expectations for a faultless marriage. Those expectations were far from realistic.
Most couples go into their marriage believing that if they can marry Mr. or Mrs. Right, that person will be the answer to all their problems. They believe that love will keep them together. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a hopeless romantic and I am a firm believer in love. You have to possess love!
I’m not only talking about silly, ooey-gooey, emotional type love.
I am talking about commitment; Honoring your vows and holding on when the road gets bumpy.
I am referring to a I Corinthians 13:4-7 kind of love. The kind of love that bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.
Too many couples today are throwing in the towel and giving up on their marriages. They become selfish and immature. They treat their marriage like a high school relationship. Grow up! This is your life. This is your marriage! Remember that you made a covenant to your spouse and to God.
I’m not saying that things will not be difficult. You will have to fight for your sanity more often than you ever expected! If you’re married, you will face disappointment and dissatisfaction. You will wonder at times, “Do I really love this person?”
Hell is trying to destroy your family.
Love your spouse. Call each other just to say hello.
Date once a week. Get away quarterly.
Communicate both openly and honestly. Fight to stay together.
Put Jesus first and keep Him first. Look in the mirror and not out the window.
Ask God to change you and not your spouse.