We have started a series on marriage at New Season called “I Want a New marriage” (New Season Tennessee will start the series this Sunday, Dec 6th.)
I’ve been covering the hard topics for both men and women. Here are some recaps, reminders, and a bit of encouragement.
1. Feed Your Man’s Ego:
Men have extremely fragile egos! This makes them feel like they must always be right and they must always be in control. Ladies, make it a point to tell him you respect and admire him. Seek his advice! Feed his ego.
2. Enjoy recreational activities together:
Ecclesiastes 9:9 says, “Enjoy life with your wife.” Remember men are doers. They pursue action and they are task oriented. Find something that you both enjoy and do it together. If you’re lucky like me, your wife enjoys sports as much as you do!
3. Look your best:
Men are stimulated by what they see. Your man is visual, so get all dolled up for him!
4. Enjoy sex often:
You read that right! Read Proverbs 5:19 and I Corinthians 7: 3-6… Enough said!
1. Date your wife weekly:
Dating must be a priority. It can be a lunch date, an evening out, a movie, dinner, etc. The point is simple – make sure you take your wife out. Just the two of you, at least once a week. Dating will be a major factor in deepening your relationship.
2. Talk to your wife:
Men need to learn to be better conversationalists. Speak up! Ask her how her day was and be genuinely interested in the conversation. Make sure you listen well and keep consistent eye contact. Communication is vital in all marriages.
3. Provide for her physically and emotionally:
The number one need for a woman is love and emotional security. Also know that she needs emotional support. Emotional support is the cement that holds everything together.
4. Plan trips:
I know we are all busy, but you do not want to miss this one! The change of scenery, the thought, and the time it takes to plan will do wonders for your marriage. (There are other benefits as well!)
5. Show her, don’t just tell her:
Most women’s love language is you doing something for her. Take some action. Words mean very little when they’re not backed up with action. Whatever it is that she needs you to do – taking out the garbage, washing the dishes, folding laundry, the honey do list, etc. Whatever that is, do it! Show her the love and she will show you the love.
Let’s be able to say I don’t need a new marriage.