In Matthew 5, Jesus told his followers, “If you are offering your gift at the altar and there you remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled with your brother, and then come and offer your gift” (vs. 23-24).
In Matthew 18 he added, “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother” (v. 15).
In the first case, you have sinned against someone. In the second, someone has sinned against you. In both, you are to initiate reconciliation. You are to speak to the person, not about him.
Matthew, chapter 18 gives us some very clear guidelines in dealing with interpersonal relationships. You are to go to your brother (that person one on one first)
There will be people who will reject your confrontation. Nothing is ever “their fault.” They will never take responsibility for anything that happens, they will always blame someone else or throw someone else under the bus.
There are some people that just will not respond the right way, even after you have handled things according to Matthew 18.
Thank God there are those people when confronted, who receive the confrontation. have a teachable spirit. They desire that their horizontal and vertical relationships be right. They repent and you have won over your brother/sister. They understand Proverb 27:2, “wounds from a friend can be trusted.”
Relationships within the body of Christ are essential. But it begins by going directly to the person, initiating reconciliation.
Who do you need to go to today and make things right?