Fight For Your Marriage

In our culture, everyone is searching for “Mr/Mrs, Right.” Most ladies are daydreaming about her knight in shining armor and looking for a combination of Edward Cullen, Brad Pitt and Will Smith. Most men are on the hunt for that sexy, gorgeous, funny girl with a killer smile.

Women want a romantic, sensitive, funny, sweet guy. Men dream of that beautiful woman with that beautiful body that he will marry and have sex three times a day with…and yes, he is still dreaming.

Mr. And Mrs. Right get married, have some kids, go to work, pay the mortgage, etc… You get the picture- life happens!

The problem is, we dated perfect people. We had a perfect picture and expectations for a perfect marriage. Those expectations were not realistic.

Most couples go into their marriage believing that if they can marry Mr. or Mrs. Right, that will be the answer to all their problems and believe that “love will keep us together.” Don’t get me wrong, I’m a hopeless romantic and I believe in love. You have to have love.

I’m not talking about silly, Ooey-gooey, emotion only type love.I am talking about commitment; honoring your vows; hanging in when things get tough. I am speaking of a I Corinthians, chapter 13, verses 4-7 kind of love. You know, the kind of love that bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.

Too many couples today are throwing in the towel and giving up on their marriages. They become selfish and immature. This isn’t high school! Grow up, this is your life, this is your marriage! Remember that you made a covenant to God and to your spouse.

I’m not saying that it will all be easy, you will have to fight for your sanity many times! If you’re married, you will face disappointment and dissatisfaction many times. You will wonder at times, “do I really love this person?”

Fight for your marriage- hell  is trying to destroy your family! Love your spouse; Call each other just to say hello; Date once a week; Get away quarterly; Communicate openly and honestly; Fight to stay together; Put Jesus first; look in the mirror and not out the window. Ask God to change you and not your spouse.

Fight for your marriage!

 

9 thoughts on “Fight For Your Marriage

  1. oh, how I wish I could just snap my fingers right now and all the people I know could and would still want to keep fighting !!!! Believe me, only in forgiveness, true forgiveness can healing start!!!! But it will start!!!! and it will fade!!!! and it will survive!!!!!

    Thanks Steve!!! this is so needed today!!!

  2. This is so true! You also have to respect and appreciate each other. Marriage is not a 50/50 arrangement, it is 100/100. Communication is key. Don’t pull the “if he loved me or knew me he’d know why I’m mad” routine because it solves nothing. Respect, appreciate, and communicate. Don’t think you can marry somebody and “change” them–it doesn’t work.

  3. Can we talk more about this? There are times when divorce is the only right thing to do. I believe Satan can deceive people into marrying knowing that it will be a miserable, unhealthy relationship. Some young Christians stay in abusive relationships out of fear of God’s disapproval of divorce. They stay praying God will change their situation, but although our God can do anything, He will never force someone to believe in Him or choose to follow him. If one person is a CHristian and the other refuses to follow, what then??? Surely God doesn’t expect you to stay in an abusive, unhealthy relationship waiting for the other person to choose and change.
    Although I fully believe in the marriage covenant, I’m afraid there are people staying in marriages that are unsafe because they are being told from the pulpits that divorce is wrong unless it is for adultry. What if there is no adultry and just abuse that never changes?

  4. wow!!! that was awesome Steve!! very well put!!! we fight daily for our marriage and this was just what I needed today!! thank you!!

  5. So many times over the past 20 years Rick and I have thought about giving up and throwing in the towel. But we have held on, and been intentional about working through our differences. Sometimes, we didn’t resolve our differences; we’ve just had to let it go and move on. Other times, we worked through the issues. It’s not easy, but it is surprising what you can work through or “get over” when you decide that divorce is not an option. We’re always a “work in progress”!

  6. Steve, what a wonderful blog! Joe and I have been fighting for ours for 45 years; he’s a patient man!!! I wish all the young (and old alike) couples in the throws of passion could read this. There is so much more to marriage. God bless you for your inspired messages.

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