In our culture, everyone is searching for “Mr/Mrs, Right.” Most ladies are daydreaming about her knight in shining armor and looking for a combination of Edward Cullen, Brad Pitt and Will Smith. Most men are on the hunt for that sexy, gorgeous, funny girl with a killer smile.
Women want a romantic, sensitive, funny, sweet guy. Men dream of that beautiful woman with that beautiful body that he will marry and have sex three times a day with…and yes, he is still dreaming.
Mr. And Mrs. Right get married, have some kids, go to work, pay the mortgage, etc… You get the picture- life happens!
The problem is, we dated perfect people. We had a perfect picture and expectations for a perfect marriage. Those expectations were not realistic.
Most couples go into their marriage believing that if they can marry Mr. or Mrs. Right, that will be the answer to all their problems and believe that “love will keep us together.” Don’t get me wrong, I’m a hopeless romantic and I believe in love. You have to have love.
I’m not talking about silly, Ooey-gooey, emotion only type love.I am talking about commitment; honoring your vows; hanging in when things get tough. I am speaking of a I Corinthians, chapter 13, verses 4-7 kind of love. You know, the kind of love that bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.
Too many couples today are throwing in the towel and giving up on their marriages. They become selfish and immature. This isn’t high school! Grow up, this is your life, this is your marriage! Remember that you made a covenant to God and to your spouse.
I’m not saying that it will all be easy, you will have to fight for your sanity many times! If you’re married, you will face disappointment and dissatisfaction many times. You will wonder at times, “do I really love this person?”
Fight for your marriage- hell is trying to destroy your family! Love your spouse; Call each other just to say hello; Date once a week; Get away quarterly; Communicate openly and honestly; Fight to stay together; Put Jesus first; look in the mirror and not out the window. Ask God to change you and not your spouse.
Fight for your marriage!