Each of us could share today of the hurts, pain and losses that destructive emotions have caused in our heart. The trauma of divorce; the sadness of past abuse; the anger of being wronged; the bitterness and unforgiveness towards someone who hurt us. We all battle destructive emotions, we all have crummy stuff inside of us. Most of us at our worst moments could audition for the Jerry Springer show and make it!
In I Samuel, chapter 25, we have the story of David, a guy named Nabal and a lady named Abigal. When you read this story you will discover David getting angry at Nabal for rejecting him. Rejection is a powerful feeling that can lead to some very destructive emotions. The name Nabal actually means “fool.” He acted like a fool and David did not respond well to it. David was ready to go to war, David loses control, he is completely outraged and loses all sense of self control.
Have you ever been so mad that you can’t see straight? Have you ever been so bitter that you could feel ulcers developing? Have you experienced such an unforgiving spirit that it literally makes you sick?
David is angry! He has been rejected. David’s anger traces back to him being rejected by his family. He had not even been invited inside of the house when Samuel came to anoint the new king. David’s own father did not even consider him when he was told that one of his sons would be king. His brothers treated him as inferior when he brought them food during Goliath’s tirade. Saul also rejected David and tried to kill him. And now in this story, a foolish man named Nabel has broken the last straw and made David extremely angry.
Anger is caused by a person’s inability to mentally cope with a situation. Anger says “you owe me, you took something from me; I have suffered loss.”
As you continue reading this passage, you see Abigal who is Nabel’s wife, intervening in the situation. Humility and grace save the day! That is the formula that we should use to battle our destructive emotions – humility and grace.
Humility is the opposite of pride and being self-centered which leads to destructive emotions. Grace for the believer is the power to obey Christ in you; filling you, and enabling you to overcome the flesh.
Our emotional state matters deeply. You must be aware of your emotional state or you will end up acting like Nabel (a fool) or you will lose control like David. Be careful to walk in humility and grace like Abigal, and overcome your destructive emotions